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Imperfect Perfection

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The enigma of the gospel is imperfect perfection. In our imperfections we are made perfect (righteous) in Christ Jesus.

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This morning I read Paul David Tripp‘s New Morning Mercies and this is what it said ; “If you obey for a thousand years, you’re no more accepted than when you first believed; your acceptance is based on Christ’s righteousness and not yours”.

Did you get that? I mean, if you have been around the Christian world for any amount of time, you are aware that our righteousness has nothing to do with us, right? But do we know that? Like really know that to the point that we must simply sit in awe of this love that is so astounding we have nothing to offer? No praise seems worthy enough. No amount of worship or adoration could ever be enough in exchange for what Christ did for us.

The problem is we’re human, and yet that was exactly God’s plan. We are made imperfectly perfect in Him. In the work of the cross. And not just the work of the cross, which will always be an act of love beyond our ability to comprehend, but Jesus rose again, victorious, having defeated death, hell and the grave, for all mankind, for ever!

When I begin to compare myself with anyone else, when I begin to remotely dip my toe into the righteousness of anything I may think, say or do, then my righteousness is as filthy rags. Here’s the rub…we are always unworthy of what Jesus accomplished at His death and resurrection.

We didn’t earn it.

We don’t deserve it.

We are sinners, every one.

But He isn’t.

Romans 3:20 says “For by works of the law no human being will be justified in His sight”.

And this in Romans 5:8 “God shows His love for us in that while we were sinners, Christ died for us”.

Nuff said.

While we were sinners. We are sinners. All of us. All the time. In His perfection, we who are imperfect, were not left to remain so. We are made righteous in Him. In Who He is and what He did.

There are no words for me to say, no other words to explain what He did or what this means for me, for us.

God, in His merciful love for us…for you…for me, sent His Son, the sinless Lamb, to be the atonement for our sins, to pay the price that we could never pay, to die our death, but then He rose again, so we could have Life.

It truly is about eternity, this life we live. It’s not about us. It’s not about our happiness, or lives of perfection. It’s not about our hopes and dreams. It’s about eternity and what He did for us.

It’s about our being imperfectly perfect in Him.

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Mysteries

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Psalm 139 is one of my favorite books in the Bible. Because this is not a perfect life we lead, this book brings comfort, especially during the chaos and confusion that we lived through in 2020, and, let’s be honest, the new chaos and confusion that will follow. We live in a fallen world as I have mentioned before.

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When I read this morning’s devotional, I spent a little time reflecting on the things I read. The first line didn’t grab my attention as much as the last three days did, but the lines in the devotional itself, is a different story all together.

After telling of a family crisis Paul David Tripp had gone through, he said this; “I held onto the thought that our lives were not out of control”. That is Psalm 139. God is never caught off guard no matter what you are going through. He is not afraid nor is He wondering how it will all turn out. From the very beginning, He knows. He will never be found scrambling around trying to work out your situation. Daniel 2:22 says He knows what’s in the darkness, and light dwells with Him”. He is in the thing, no matter what it is. No matter how dark it seems…He is there.

Mysteries are only mysterious if you don’t know what lies ahead. I serve a God who is already in the future. He is not limited by time or space. This thing that you are facing, He is there waiting for you to get through it…AND He is in it with you. That is the greatest mystery of all, to me anyway. It is beyond the limits of our human thought process. He can be, and in fact IS in ALL places at ALL times, and that includes your future.

So take heart today, my friend, no matter what it is you are going through, no matter how dark and mysterious it appears, He is light, He is here with you, and He is at the end of the tunnel, waiting for you. This is not too hard for God, though the pain may be unbearable to you. This life event has not caught Him unaware. He is not worried about what will happen to you or those you love. And in this unpredictable and imperfect life that we live, that is the greatest gift of all.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6.

 

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Every Little Moment

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Keeping in line with my current blog posts based on the top line of my devotional New Morning Mercies by Paul David Trip here we go again! “If eternity is the plan, then it makes no sense to shrink your living down to the needs and wants of this little moment”.

We live in a world where it’s not a perfect life because I am not and neither are you.

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Eternity is the plan. Maybe it wasn’t our idea or even our plan, but it is THE plan. If we humans could grasp that concept from the very beginning, as soon as we were able to formulate thoughts outside of our wants and needs of every little moment, then life would be much less messy.

If eternity is the plan, would it not make sense for us as individuals to conduct the affairs of our families and our marriages, our going-about-every-day life with the very thought of what would lead us to do better, be better for the sake of eternity?

Maybe I’m making this too complicated. Here’s the thought that occurred to me; what if we based every decision we made, as one part of a couple, or one member of a family, or a team mate of any kind…what if the underlying thought for every decision we will ever make in life is this; is this action for the good of my family, my marriage, my team? Does this action fall under the wants and needs of this little moment, or does it fit with eternity as the plan? Would that not simplify life in general?

I get that is isn’t that easy. Life can’t be that simple. If it were, there would be no dysfunction. No war. No divorce. If we could live our lives in such a manner then we wouldn’t need a Savior. It is because we live in a fallen world that we make poor choices based on our own selfish desires of every little moment.

But what if we could? What if I strived everyday to “Be Holy, as I am Holy” (I Peter 1:15)? What if I did take into account how every decision I make will affect the lives of those I love, because it kinda does.

If we could let go of “the wants of the little moments” and look at the bigger picture, our lives would be more calm and serene.

It’s just a thought I had.

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I Am Not

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I started the day with this thought; “What do you do when something is so big it will have to be all God, but it seems like, at the moment, it’s all you?”

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That’s where I was yesterday, in my thoughts, about my life. I can’t fathom how it’s suppose to go, much less work. I am required to make a choice. I don’t like the options. I am not equipped to be successful at any choice I make. And then it hit me, that’s exactly where I’m supposed to live. That is the place where I was supposed to land…and take root. I am not.

As much as it depends on me, I am ill-equipped. But it doesn’t depend on me. If I can stay there, then I’m good. Here’s the thing, though, I can’t stay there. It isn’t humanly possible. I can only desire to be there. I can only follow the Lord there. I can only stay open to what He desires to do and His will for my life because I am not.

Here’s the thing too…that applies to you as well.

As long as I am looking at my own strength and ability to do this mammoth thing in my life, I am defeated before I even begin. But if I choose to look to Him, (“When I am weak, I am strong”), when I choose to allow Him to do the work in my heart, minute by minute each and every day that I live, then I will find success. It’s only in Him. Because I am not.

And if that wasn’t enough of a way to begin my day, I read this in New Morning Mercies by Paul David Tripp’ “Your rest is not to be found in figuring your life out, but in trusting the One who has it all figured out for your good and His glory”.

And I was off again because I am not able on my own to do this thing.

I don’t have to have it all figured out, which is brilliant, because on a good day, I can’t even wrap my mind around the magnitude of it all. The beauty comes, indeed the rest comes from trusting the One Who knows me well, who knew me in my mother’s womb before I breathed my first breath. My strength, courage and my ability…my sufficiency comes only when “I trust in the One who has it all figured out for my good and His glory”.

Because I am not.

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In the Beginning God

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I was reminded this morning, I am reading New Morning Mercies by Paul David Tripp, that the first four words of the Bible are; “In the beginning, God. That pretty much sums it all up…this world, this life, our purpose and reason to exist. God.

In the beginning, God created everything, He is life, He gives purpose, He gives meaning

Why do we forget that, if we even know or acknowledge it at all? Why do we get all confused and caught up in our feelings and make life mean something it was never supposed to mean. Without those first four words; “In the beginning, God”, then life gets terribly mixed up and has a way of easily, conveniently and quickly going off the rails.

If we live our lives knowing that “In the beginning, God” we would easily find purpose and meaning. Decisions and life choices would come together and make more sense. Life would be filled with a lot less regrets. Because in the end, my decisions and choices aren’t just about me. They affect a lot of people. Not all choices and not all people. Just the ones that matter most.

For 2021, if I could wish one thing for you, I would hope that you find meaning in your life, with all the trials and issues you face, because this is not a perfect life. It could very well start with; “In the beginning, God”.

Be still. and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalm 46:10

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What If I Got It All Wrong?

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What if I missed it? What if I got it all wrong or looked at it the wrong way for, well…most of my adult life? What if you have too?

Don’t get me wrong, There is no condemnation. I am not here to bring hellfire and damnation. I am not here to lament and regret, wail and gnash teeth. But what if the things you have gone through are for a different reason than what you thought?

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I am here to explore the idea. Right here in this space. What if I missed what God was trying to show me all these years, and am just now seeing clearly? I’m not saying that I’ve missed it all, that I haven’t grown in my relationship with Jesus, but what if what He has been showing me along the way has led me to this place that I never even considered?

God has been peeling back the layers, gently, slowly, sweetly, because He knows me.

I’m not saying this is what’s going on in YOUR life, because I don’t know you that well. But I know Him, or at least I’m coming to know who He is more intimately in my life as I follow after Him.

The sermon at my church last Sunday was really good. Matt Reagan, the associate pastor at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, Kentucky, used an analogy of a house renovation with allowing God to rework our lives.

 

It was a really good sermon because of his really good analogy. It’s hard work, tearing up a room to make it better. It’s messy work. Matt said that for he and his wife, the mess is worth it as long as they can live with the mess while keeping their eyes on the goal…the new room. To recap what Matt said:

Renovations are hard and messy. The Father (Son and Holy Spirit) are not overwhelmed, mad or confused about the renovations that need to be done in lives and our hearts. He is looking to the finished product of who we are becoming as we yield to the handy work He is doing. Matt also told us that whoever keeps the commands of the Father is the one who loves Him. Feed yourself on the Word of God, he said. Figure out what He is saying and follow Him. That is how our love for Him is measured.
This brings me back to the original question. What if the past few decades of my life wasn’t about what I thought it was? What if God was using those things to get me to the place He wants me to be…the place He needs me to be? What if I’m the only one who can fulfill the plan that He has for my life and the only way that can happen is if He renovates those things in my life that need to be changed.

 

It was hard at first, grasping this thing He is doing in my life. It’s not a new thing. I’m just looking at it from a totally different view point than I have ever looked before. What if, in spite of all the pain and stress of the things going on around me, He is bringing me to this new place on purpose, for His purpose.
What if He’s doing that in your life too?
What would that look like?
And how will you respond?

 

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Do You Hold On To The Past?

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I was going through some old stuff, things that make up a growing family. I was throwing things away that didn’t seem to matter and dividing the things that appeared to in piles for each family member to look at and decide if they wanted to keep what was rightfully theirs. My hope is to dwindle my keepsakes, but to be honest, if they don’t want them, I might still hold on to all the things of the past. So what is the point really?

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And another truth not to be overlooked is that one day (only God knows when) I will be called home and those people who are going through the stuff now, will be going through the stuff again when that day comes. That day will come for each of us, not matter how much we hold on.

Why do we hold on to stuff? I get not all people do. Some people take a picture and toss it into the trash as soon as the event is over. They may hold on in their hearts, but the commemorative is of no consequence.  Others don’t even bother with a photo of the memento. It’s over, in the trash, next!

I’m not one of those people.

I also get that I haven’t thought about some of those memories in a very long time, not until the stuff took me down the lane that holds the secrets to days gone by. Is that why I keep it, to be reminded of where I was, what I have grown through and how I felt in the moment?

Sometimes I have such a strong yearning for the things of the past that I can’t even find the words to express it. Some memories are so incredibly sweet that the longing grows stronger. Others leave me raw, ripped open wide and deep, pulsating with every breath I take.

While riffling through the boxes, piece by aged piece, I came across a quote I had written down to remember. As I read these words they resonated afresh and anew: “Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past”. (After doing research, I’m not sure who originally penned those words but I heard them from (Anne Lamott).

Is that why we hold on to things, because we want to change the past? Is holding on to the tangible equivalent to holding on to the things that have come and gone, whether good or bad? Do these things represent holding on to what was and can never be changed?

I’m not sure if that is what I’m doing, but if so, then I pray;

Dear Father God, help me to let go of anything that keeps me tied to the past. No matter how good or how bad, it is gone. All we have is today, this moment. Help me, help us to live in the moment and trust You with our whole hearts. Forgive us for holding on to the past because it was better than today, and forgive us for holding on to all the injustices, unfairness and abuse that has occurred in our lives. Those things keep us stuck. I don’t want to be stuck, Lord, but more importantly, You don’t want us stuck. Help us to open our hearts to what You have for us today. Amen.

What are you holding on to?

 

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Talking With TyiaLynn

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I have started having conversations with different people, like my friends Megan and Trevor

Please join in my conversation with TyiaLynn, the founder of Critically Loved. She shared the struggles of dealing with a critically ill child and is using all the education, family struggles, grief and anxiety that surround this issue to help other people going through similar situations.

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Please listen to see how you can support TyiaLynn is this needed ministry and listen with an ear to connect others in need to this amazing and most importantly, Jesus.

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I Still Believe

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“Even when I don’t believe, I still believe”. That’s a line from the song (and movie) by Jeremy Camp, I Still Believe.

I’ve heard the line in that song like a gazillion times. but I finally heard it while watching the movie.

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Of course there is a scripture in the New Testament that says the same thing in a different way. Mark 9:24 says Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief.”

That line from the song resonated with where I am today and have often been in my life. Have you ever experienced something so big, so overwhelming that you couldn’t even pray more that\n these three words; “Lord, help me”? Yeah, me too.

There have been times in my life when it took every ounce of strength I had to utter those three words. I felt defeated and hopeless. I felt like giving up. But then it would hit me, where else would I go? Who else can do anything for me, to me, in me? No one but the only One Who can.

“Even when I don’t believe, I still believe.”

That line is fitting for the Covid 19 pandemic that we are currently experiencing. There are a lot of people and just as many opinions about the why and how of this extremely contagious virus. In the midst of all the chaos of the Coronavirsus people are turning to God that have written Him off a long time ago, for whatever reason.

On the other hand, this pandemic has caused many to wavier in their faith, wondering where God is in the midst of all the suffering and death. How could a loving God allow such a tragedy to happen, they wonder.

I get that, I do. I don’t know the answer to that question. I don’t know the answer to a lot of questions. Why were so many Jewish people abused and put to death for no other reason but their ethnicity? Why do innocence children fall into harm’s way? Why is there so much pain and suffering in the world?

I’m not diminishing nor comparing. Horrible things happen to good people, and I don’t know why. But I choose to trust. What else is there really? In the chaos of this present day, and all the horrific times that have occurred before, “Even when I don’t believe, I still believe”.

Bringing it closer to home, the suffering you have endured because of the chaos in your home life can cause you to wonder where God is. You have prayed the prayers and believed in the God who has no limits, yet the circumstances of your life remain the same.

It is hard to trust God when things don’t seem to change.

If you are having a hard time with “Even when I don’t believe, I still believe” then you are not alone. In fact, please don’t try to do this alone. Find a community. Al-Anon is a good group and there are so many all over the United States.

My church, Southeast Christian Church has many groups they offer in person or online. Contact them for more information. 

And, if you would like for me to pray for you, please reach out. I am an ordained minister and a certified life coach, along with a trained women’s mentor. Let me know how I can help.

 

 

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Legacy of a Father

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The last two weeks have been hard. Especially the week before Christmas, sitting in a hospital room in the ICU, waiting for my dad to leave this world. That was hard stuff but I am thinking about the legacy of a father, and my dad left a good one.

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My dad was a unique and special man who lived his life well.

I have always known my dad was a good man but the full picture was made known to me last week. Stringing together his life and how he chose to live underlined, for me, the beauty of who my dad was.

He took good care of my mom and loved her so well. His love for his family, immediate and extended (even in-laws ) was something I watched all my life. He was an amazing grandfather. My kids- all of his grandchildren- knew they were loved by him. Not because he did anything special, but simply because he always went out of his way to let them know they were loved.

I listened to all the kind words people said about my dad at the visitation and the funeral, of how special he was. I felt special to have had such a man for my dad. My dad left a legacy of a father full of love for family, a life of faith, integrity, honesty and loyalty.

That’s when it hit me…not only do I have a rich heritage lived out before my eyes all during my life, but I am doubly blessed. I also have a legacy that is eternal. A legacy from the Father through Jesus Christ His Son, the most important legacy of them all.

The goodness of my earthly father doesn’t hold a candle to my heavenly Father. My earthly dad is gone from this world. I will see him again one day, but my heavenly Father, well He is always with me. He promised each of us that He would never leave us alone.

I find great comfort in that promise. This is a crazy, jacked up world. Anything can happen to anyone of us at any time and just like that, our time on earth will come to an end. It will you know. We’ve all been given a number of days that doesn’t even compare to the life after this one.

Two great legacies that I am honored to be a recipient of, but none as great as the eternal love of the Father above. For you and for me.

May 2020 be a year where you live intentionally in all that you do and love fully in all the special relationships in your lives. Most importantly, may you experience personally the love of the Father and find meaning and purpose through His Son Jesus.

 

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