I love the Chris Tomlin song, I Will Follow. The words… you can’t miss the words to this song: “Where you go I’ll go, Where you stay I’ll stay, When you move I’ll move, I will follow. Who you love I’ll love, how you serve I’ll serve, If this life I lose, I will follow You”.
We get stuck in the circumstances of life. We get caught up in the everydayness of what is going on around us, and rightly so, because life is always happening all around us. We are affected by what is going on in our relationships and what happens at work. It is what it is; we are where we are, but if we can only change what we can change, then we need to trust in a Higher Source. Ask God for help. And then follow.
Why do humans tend to look at change as bad? Change is inevitable. Change is the one constant in our lives so we must not only learn to accept change, but to embrace it as well. And hey, why not be all in and every now and then, even initiate change in our lives.
With change comes a grieving process. Whether the change is something you ask for or not. There is a fine line in grieving the loss of something in your life big or small, and getting stuck in the process.
Focusing on the things that have been but no longer are, can keep you from the things that are possible for your future. Again, with every change there is a loss, whether the change is good or bad, planned or totally unexpected. We don’t want to lose sight of that. To continue down the path of ‘what ifs’ and ‘how comes’ can distract you from the here and now and a hope for the future.
There will always be new adventures that we have the opportunity to join. There will be new directions we can choose to take. There will also be new adversities out, regardless of how you feel about that.
The reward of change comes when you let go of the fear and enjoy the ride…and then follow.
How are you with change? What happens to your mind when change comes along? Have you ever paid attention to what goes on in your body when you go through a season of change? Loss of sleep and a tight feeling in your chest are some of the most obvious things you can detect. But what about your mental attitude?
Paying attention to how you body feels can be key in realizing how stressed you are without being aware of how stressed you are.
Since I am a life coach who works with wives of sex addicts, the things that happen in your body due to what is going on in your home environment is a big thing to be aware of. I get that it’s hard to stay in your lane and not let the mood or behaviors of your husband to influence you or steal your serenity but it is possible.
If you need someone to help you still the voices in your head due to the chaos that is happening around you so you can decide what your own unique next steps are, I can help. And then you will be free to do what the song by Chris Tomlin says; I Will Follow.