I was reading once again in Don’t Give Up by Kyle Idleman, Senior Pastor at Southeast Christian Church. He wrote; “Accidental lives seem fun and spontaneous to some—just throw the dice every day and see what you land on. But when the harvest comes due, you’ll likely wish you’d put time and thought into your future”.
When you’re twenty years old and about to get married, you hope you know what you’re doing. You assume that the doubts and butterflies that feel more like bats-vampire bats- are normal. You pray; “Please dear God, let this be normal”.
I remember just weeks before the wedding date, a co-worker, a man who was a few years older than me was getting married a month or so after me. He asked me if I was nervous. I lied. I told him I wasn’t. I mean, I was a Christian. My soon-to-be-husband was a new Christian. We were friends. We loved each other. Why would I be nervous? I was, but I wasn’t about to admit it. He did. My co-worker admitted he was nervous. He voiced his very real and legit concern of how one really knows if one is marrying the “right” person?
I WAS scared but I never told a single person. My co-worker’s marriage only lasted a year or two and for that I was sorry. But my marriage? It was struggling right along.
This seems like “Accidental living” to me. Thought out but kind of spontaneous? How could a couple of kids really know what they were doing? Granted, it was 1980. That wasn’t too young to marry back in those days, but it definitely wasn’t the 1950s where home and hearth was more the norm.
I was born in the wrong era.
Hear me well…it is important who you marry! It’s not a practice run. It is until death do you part no matter how this generation chooses to view it.
I recently heard that there is a new thing. Brides, while planning the wedding often say; “It’s perfect for my first wedding!” Wait, what?!!!
God is the author and inventor of marriage. No matter if you believe in God or not, or the sacredness of marriage, it is what it is. Marriage is a covenant, a treaty, a contract between three beings. The bride, the groom and God. Make no mistake, God is in the marriage whether you want Him there or not. It belongs to Him and He has taken it upon Himself to be involved. He considers your marriage sacred and holy regardless of your opinion.
Don’t use “Accidental Living” as a way to get married. Do it once and do it for life. There is a caveat, however, if you are in an abusive relationship and either you or your children’s lives are endangered, GET OUT. SEEK HELP! That is your obligation and responsibility.
Accidental living has no place when it comes to who you marry.