I was talking with a few friends the other day at the cottage school that my son attends. Since it was the first day of classes we moms were catching up on things that had taken place during the summer break.
One woman told me right before summer began that her dad’s cancer had returned and the prognosis wasn’t good. And now, she said, he is nearing the end. She was talking of the demands of dealing with all things medical, all the while helping her mom who has health issues of her own; and then she told me her teenage daughter had just been diagnosed with Type A Diabetes…within days of learning her husband had lost his job. Really?!! She paused and said she was waiting for life to get back to normal, “Whatever that is”.
I can so relate. That’s when I heard these words come out of my mouth: “Life is a series of finding a new normal”. At least that has proven to be true in my life. Life happens to us all.
People we love get sick, sometimes terminally.
Jobs are lost.
People lose their spouses.
They lose a child.
People lose a house or a business, or all of their earthly possessions in a fire or other natural disaster.
They lose a friend.
Some move to new neighborhoods, both far and near.
People get married.
All things which require us to find a “new normal”. Some things good, some things…not so much. Perhaps life is a mathematical equation too. Life= Losses + Gains. (I don’t like math). And when this happens, whether it is a loss or a gain , there is a demand placed upon us to buck up and find a new normal, and if necessary, create one. The choice is there to be made by all. You roll with the punches or fight it tooth and nail. One thing is a sure bet, circumstances will change and finding a new normal is necessary in order to survive, and hopefully thrive in this journey we call life.
How true is this in your life? Are you able to find a new normal when called upon to do so?