I had my kids later in life and marriage. My husband and I were married for ten years before we had our first child. Two more children followed in that six year period. Those were busy days, not gonna lie. Changing diapers, potty training, nursing, laundry, changing diapers, so many diapers, introducing solid foods and all that goes along with raising children. I loved those days, and if the truth be told, I miss them too.
It seems like all too soon my kids entered a new phase in life…the pre-teen/early teen years. Gone were the days of the minute by minute need to keep them from harm’s way and provide them with basic needs. We were now into the social era. I got comfortable with those years. Sure, I was busy driving them and their friends here, there and yon, but I really didn’t mind too terribly much. I took advantage of those times to connect with my kids, all those hours in the van.
It seems to sneak up on you, each new phase in the life of your kids. Time has a way of turning into another year gone by. And the next thing you know they are passing the driver’s test, which means that life as you know it, is forever altered.
I for one, appreciated the whole graduated license thing. Forget the purpose and intent of that period – driver’s training for the teen. I needed that small chunk of change on the calendar to adjust to the times that were a-changing. Six months of driving with a licensed driver alongside them, that’s it. Six months. And then they’re off on their own.
That whole period is about way more than the obvious, in a non-obvious kind of way. It’s about letting go. Not for good and not overall, but letting go nonetheless, in a time that proved to be a series of letting go.
Life is all about letting go. Never more so than in parenting. And that six month period of driver’s permit ownership is a ticket, a free pass if you will, to give the parent a little more time to hold on…in a small way, and with a firm grip that is gradually being loosened.
My niece is about to turn thirteen in a few short days from now. Her mom is wondering where the time went. She’s not alone. We have all been there already, or perhaps headed there even now.
And just so you know, it comes sooner than you think.