“Starting all over again, it’s gonna be rough, so rough, but we’re gonna make it”, are lyrics from a soul song by Mel and Tim. Another line that comes to mind is; “It’s never too late to start all again, make changes to plan a new course.” Lyrics from a song my brother wrote.
I hope they’re right, these writers of such words.
I have talked with several women who are in a transitional period later in life.They feel old, too old to start all over again. They often ask me how to start all over when you’ve lived more than half your life.
People do it every day, right? Things change. People die, or contract an illness, become disabled, find someone new, or just decide to move on.
These women have been there and I’ve been there myself a time or two. It’s not something most people ever want to really do. But, to quote another song lyric by The Rolling Stones, “You can’t always get what you want.”
Here’s another thing they ask…”What’s the right thing to do?” What if your decision affects other people who really didn’t ask for the changes, or really doesn’t want to go through them? What if you don’t want to go through them yourself, but know deep in your heart that making the change is the best thing on a few levels?
It doesn’t make it any easier, this starting all over again thing.
“Why do some people make it look so easy?”, they want to know. They just pick up and move right on down the line (I think I just used another lyric from yet another song).
I tend to hold on to things way past their expiration dates. It’s just part of who I am. And if there is the remotest possibility that something can happen to make the change avoidable, then I’m all in. Sometimes, though, things can become a little complicated.
Some words to live by keep crossing my mind: Let go and let God. One day at a time. Do the next right thing. Decide to decide at a later date.
You don’t have to make the decision today. For the good of all involved, taking action to make the change later is sometimes the right thing to do.
Doing the hard thing is always uncomfortable at best.
And that’s why we need a higher power.
Empowering women to recreate their life stories and dance in the fulfillment of their dreams.
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