Tips from Dale Carnegie.
1. Create your own emotions.
“If you want to be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic.”
You can actually decide how you want your day to go and then respond accordingly.
2. It’s not so much about the logical stuff.
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.”
We act because of the way we think and feel. Our belief systems play a huge role. Keeping this in mind goes a long way.
3. Three things you are better off avoiding.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”
An emotionally healthy person knows that when someone criticizes, condemns and complains, it says way more about the person doing those things than the person they are complaining about.
4. What is most important?
“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”
An excellent listener is thought of as the best conversationalist. Enough said.
5. Focus outward, not inward.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
Again, listen way more than you speak.
6. Take control of your emotions.
“The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another’s keeping.”
You can choose how you respond to your emotions. We don’t have to let our emotions dictate how we behave. That is called giving away our power.
7. No, they are not holding you back.
“Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.”
Why waste your valuable time and energy on worrying about what people say about you. Be the person you want to be. Become someone to admire.
8. So, what’s in it for me?
“There is only one way… to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.”
A what’s-in-it-for-me attitude comes across loud and clear. Get outside of yourself and focus on others. It’s a win/win.
9. How to win an argument.
“The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.”
There is no point in arguing. I feel the need to say that again, only louder. THERE IS NO POINT IN ARGUING. No one wins and everybody looses.
10. It’s about more than your words.
“There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.”
Wise words indeed.